Menopause: The symptoms. Why menopause symptoms? When do menopause symptoms start? What are the menopausal symptoms?
Symptom No 1: Changes in the woman’s period
Probably from the woman’s point of view, this is likely to be the one that is noticed first like if your periods are very regular, you might start to notice an irregularity. Perhaps the period may be shorter or longer. Perhaps the woman may bleed more or less than usual.
These are just normal changes;
- your periods happen very close together
- You have heavy bleeding
- You have spotting
- Your periods last more than a week
- Your periods resume after no bleeding for more than a year
This is the key to the symptoms because the symptoms may not be symptoms of menopause, they may be symptoms of something else.
Symptom No 2: Hot flashes/Flushes
This is pretty common. If I said to you as a male, someone is going through menopause. What are the symptoms? They might talk about blood, but most likely the male might say rages, irritability, and also hot flashes. Many women have hot flashes and these can sadly last for many years after menopause. These may be related to a drop or to changing estrogen levels.
What is a hot flash? A hot flash is a sudden feeling of heat in the upper part of your body. Your face and neck may become flushed. Red blotches may appear on your chest, on your back, and your arms, So you have got your face and neck flushed, red blotches, heavy sweating but also cold shivering can follow. They can be mild or they can be strong and strong enough to wake up.
So you are the male. This is of course for males.
Consider you are lying next to your female partner and she wakes up heavy, sweating (night sweats), cold, and shivering and it’s very strong. Now how long do these last? Sometimes symptoms last for 30 sec but for some people, it can last up to 10 min.
Well, it can be anything between 30 sec and 10 min, which is quite a long time. You are lying in bed sweating buckets, blotches, redness, heat over your neck, over your chest, over your shoulders, or your back, And this can happen several times, an hour or a few times a day, or maybe just once or twice a week.
Several times an hour and a few times a day? So let’s say three times an hour, maybe five times a day. It’s 15 sets of maybe 5, 6 min. So more of these hot flashes, intense heat. This feeling of heat is in the upper part of your body.
How to minimize hot Flashes:
- Spicy foods :
- Spicy foods like hot sauce, enough spicy food, etc. They can spark a hot flash.
- Caffeine :
- Coffee and tea lovers may have more hot flashes than women who avoid caffeine.
- Stress :
- Meditation and other stress relievers may reduce the frequency of hot flashes.
- Smoking :
- The risk of hot flashes may increase with the number of cigarettes you smoke.
- Extra weight :
- Obesity may cause more frequent hot flashes, but losing weight will help.
- Alcohol :
- Switch to sparkling water or juice spritzers to reduce hot flashes.
BUT REMEMBER, HERE WE ARE TALKING TO THE MALE.
Symptom No 3: Bladder Control:
So changes in the period, hot flashes, bladder control. Is it any wonder that women who suffer a lot from menopause in terms of the symptoms would like there to be better education, and greater awareness of you as the male? You can continue to get hot flashes many years after menopause.
So bladder control, if you lose control of your bladder, that is called ‘incontinence’, you may have a sudden urge to urinate or a urine leak may occur whilst you exercising, whilst you are sneezing, or laughing.
The reason for these symptoms is what is less known to the average person is what happens to the pelvis when the ovaries start to shut down, So what happens is your estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone go down and the vulva tissues which are very very estrogen and testosterone dependant, become atrophied, dry, irritated or more prone to infections.
You see this huge spike in urinary tract infections, incontinence, painful sex, and all of these pelvic conditions that women don’t traditionally correlate with menopause because they are just not educated to know that this is part of menopause.
So we need to say Oh! you have incontinence or you have UTI or painful sex but now it’s kind of an encompassing condition called ‘Genital Urinary Symptoms Of Menopause’.
How to treat Incontinence:
First thing the females should do in treating incontinence is to see a doctor. Also, remember that bladder infection can occur in midlife. Kegel exercises help a lot. The best way to control your bladder control is to have lots and lots of sex;). So as a male, you could have lots of sex;),
As a male, you should know that that’s a way to help with bladder control. As a male, you can reference it somehow. Do have a look at this study. I’ll share a link to this article that will help you justify and support the advice. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-11327555/Doctors-orgasms-regime-helps
Symptom No 3: Sleep/lack of sleep:
Hot flashes, periods or changes in the period, bladder control, night sweats; all of this is going to play havoc with sleep. I already mentioned lifestyle changes, diet, exercise, relaxation, and sleep help to reduce the symptoms, But if one of the symptoms is interrupted or disruptive sleep, then u can hardly use sleep to reduce the symptoms, which is disruptive sleep.
It’s not that uncommon that around mid-life, women start having trouble getting a good night’s sleep and the same applies to men as well. But obviously not for reasons of menopause unless they are kept awake by the person that they are with.
It is sad that as you get older, you need less and less sleep, but maybe because during the day you are moving less and less. In fact, your whole body and mind are slowing down.
Now a woman going through menopause may have problems not getting enough sleep because first of all they can’t fall asleep easily or they wake up too early or perhaps both. They can’t fall asleep easily and also they may wake up dripping wet and sweaty (night sweats).
It might be difficult to get back to sleep. So what can be done? What can you as a man, advise as a male advise your sleeping partner?
If your partner is having trouble getting to sleep, it is one of the symptoms of menopause, almost with night sweats and problems with periods, hot flashes, and bladder control. So at least perhaps you can identify and maybe learn something about what to do.
Symptom No 4: Vaginal health and sexuality:
After menopause, the vagina may become drier. This means sexual intercourse may well become uncomfortable, not just for the female of course, but also for the male. So what can be done? Options for addressing vaginal pain during sex.
The above link will help you recognize how sexuality is a problem area for those going through menopause. It could also be that the woman who is going through menopause has found that her feelings about sex have been changing.
Perhaps the woman is less interested. On the other hand, to take another extreme, it could be that the woman feels freer because there is been one full year without a period, so no longer can she become pregnant.
But that doesn’t mean you cannot catch the sexually transmitted disease (STD). You can get Gonorrhea or HIV or AIDS and chances of infection increase with multiple sex partners.
This is all about the symptoms of menopause for you, the male, to learn about what females go through changes in the period, bladder control, disruptive sleep, vaginal health, and sexuality.
The next symptom I think is something that many males probably know. Unfortunately, they may well blame the menopause, but in fact, it’s the male’s irritating, obnoxious, arrogant, uncaring, unfeeling behavior, Mood Changes.
Symptom No 5: Mood Changes
Another symptom of the menopause is mood changes (changes in mood). For example, the female might feel moodier, and more irritable around the time of menopause especially when you, the obnoxious male, blame her bad mood on the menopause, when in fact it’s because you have got this month to help with the washing up or do any hoovering you forgot to give your wife a lift;).
And in fact, it’s your behavior not the symptom of menopause. That said changes in mood may be a symptom of menopause. The female might feel moodier and might feel more irritable. Remember the irritation may be, nothing to do with menopause. It may be you (the male;)
Scientists don’t know why the female would feel more irritable at the time of menopause. Could it be disruptive or disrupted sleep? Could it be the night sweats? Could it be a reduction in bladder control? Could it be the embarrassment or stress of all the sweats, all the thoughts that would change the mood of the individual?
It’s quite possible that stress, family changes such as aging parents or it could be growing children. The troublesome years. It could be the history of depression. It could be just feeling tired because of this lack of sleep, soaking wet sheets, and consistent arguments with the obnoxious male partner.
So the main thing the male should be aware of these mood changes might be because of menopause and the suggestions because unless you are a doctor, you are probably not going to give advice. The suggestion is that maybe the female should talk to a primary care provider or a mental health care professional about what she is experiencing.
So not the male talks to the mental health provider, but the female. Perhaps you go as a couple because the point of this article is that the male learns about menopause. The male will be aware of the symptoms and perhaps more aware of what can be done, but at least aware of what the female is going through.
These are treatments that can help. Sleep hygiene, good hobbies, stress relief, and then adequately treating our symptoms which can sometimes really be reduced if we actually do hormone replacement therapy or other solutions can also help that.
Symptom No 6: A Changing Body:
Another symptom for the female is that the female’s body to the female seems different, in fact (and you don’t agree with this) this is actually happening, even though it may be from the female’s point of view. How the waist seems larger, in fact, could get larger. The reason maybe you are not sleeping properly, you are not going out much. Perhaps you are overreacting, not exercising as many problems with exercise.
Problems with lack of bladder control. and so the female loses muscle and gains fat. Her skin could become thinner. It’s quite possible that the female may now start to have memory problems. Plus you are not exercising (yoga exercises).
You got more fat, problems with self-esteem. Your waist is larger. Your muscles feel stiff and achy. In fact, researchers are exploring such changes and how they relate to hormones and growing older. So your body seems different. Your body is different, don’t you, as the male?
It’s your menopause that is making you irritable. The degree of these symptoms varies from woman to woman so the impact of menopause varies from person to person. There may be aches, pains, headaches, and heart palpitations. So if there are heart palpitations, you should go and see a doctor because menopausal symptoms can be caused by changing hormone levels.
And it’s unpredictable how often women will experience symptoms, and how severe these symptoms will be.
These articles Part 1 and Part 2 for males is to learn a bit more about menopause. Hope it helps 🙂